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Ontario Provincial Police
Warns Public About Website 
 March 2010
                                  

Ontario Provincial Police (OPP) in cooperation with the Ontario Corrections Intelligence Unit are warning the public about certain criminal websites possibly being used by thieves to break into your home when you are away. These websites used by criminals are linked to popular social networking websites. On these social networking websites (which are legitimate) you can update your profile to inform your friends as to when you are away from your residence and for how long. Certain criminal websites extracts this information and posts it on its pages and informs their users in any part of the world which houses are empty and at what times. When you consider how many millions of people use social networking websites around the world, the effects can be huge. The public is reminded that items posted on social networking websites are available to all on the web and not all persons on the web are “friends”. Please restrict what you put on your networking page(s) including photos of your residence/address, photos of vehicles including plate numbers and any up to the minute information as to your whereabouts, keep that for your local friends/people you know personally.

Simple Mechanism

By Patricia Lefave

It is a simple but effective (and frequently devastating )mechanism.

The behaviour of the antagonist and of the group which blindly supports him/her is completely denied and so is the victim's perception of it and reactions to it.

Reality is then reversed to support the group denial.

The antagonist is seen as innocent and so are his/her supporters and then the victim is blamed for his or her perception and reactions which are assessed by the group to be either:

1. deliberate attempts to blame the innocent blameless ones.

2. just plain lies told by the victim.

3. stupidity.

4. insanity of the 'victim.' (who only 'thinks' she's a victim.)

The result is the domination game remains unseen and therefore continues to infinite power and control over a victim who has been made powerless to stop it.

It does not surprise me that what psychiatry concludes are serious mental illnesses are partly believed to be 'genetic' as they 'tend to run in families.' Of course they do since the dysfunctional construct includes the denial of the existence of any abuser and the denial of the group behaviour. Doing so keeps the system CLOSED. The conclusion then is 'if there is no problem with the family (or some other group which mimics the family dynamic, like school groups, workplaces, teams or gangs) then the problem must be within the one who 'thinks' there is a problem.' (there's the switch!)

All human thinking patterns are 'circular' including the healthy one based on equality of inherent worth. Both outcomes are directly related to the premise of thought. That sounds simple , and it is in principle but it is not so simple to fix because it means actively breaking old patterns and having a replacement thinking pattern to use instead. We humans have trouble letting go of our habits especially if we have nothing with which to replace them. What we don't need to do is just suppress any truth or feelings that we don't like or force other people to suppress theirs. That is just status quo maintenance behaviour.

I believe we all need to self focus, stop comparing ourselves to what other people are doing, saying, feeling or what others are 'worth' and stop externalizing all our own problems. If you who are involved in my own case really want to know why many families would choose a member to be the scapegoat then look at yourselves doing what you have been doing for the last 17 years in MY case.

Is it reason based or emotion based? Why are YOU doing it? Don't pretend you don't know, as you DO know and you know you do. In fact, pretending you don't know is part of the dysfunctional pattern. Why are YOU coercing, manipulating lying and blaming and trying to exert unwanted control over your own victim? Why do you tell me things like 'if I expect people who deliver speeches on ethics to BE ethical that I am 'unrealistic?' Is that really doing me the big favour of pointing out my flaws to 'help' me or is it more about protecting and concealing your own? Cannot you not hear your own duplicity or do you just believe that I don't and so that makes it all OK then? What's your answer?

If you really want to change the world for the better, first self focus and locate the 'log' in your own eye.

Dysfunction Lives Within Its’ Own Tautology

This is created and maintained with the splitting mechanism.

Concrete example:

If a psychiatric hospital instructs its staff not to ‘admit to anything’ as it may have negative consequences for the hospital, and the same hospital claims nothing happened there, then what exactly is it that no one is’ to admit to’ doing or knowing?

Both those who are agreeing ‘not to admit to anything’ and those who are giving the instructions not to admit to it, know that what they are being told ‘not to admit to’, is something they have done wrong. No one is ever told not to ‘admit to’ doing good are they? In fact, if they do good, they are likely to call the newspaper and get their picture taken for it. (Fame seeking of the ‘normal’)

Dysfunctional families think the same way. Many a psychiatrized person has been told they must 'forgive’ family members who claim that 'nothing’ happened. Many have also responded to that instruction by asking, “If nothing happened, as I ‘claim’ that it did, then for WHAT exactly, am I 'forgiving’ them?

It’s a legitimate question. You experts who are instructing others not to admit to anything can ANSWER it.

The First Delusion

The I/thou splitting of experience.

The first delusion  and it is an increasingly common one, is that one is not an equal participant in life but rather an ‘objective observer’ of ‘others.’

Of course if the psychiatrized even suggest such a thing as ‘objective observation’ of others is true for them, they get an increase in medication too reduce their grandiosity.

Psychiatrists, on the other hand, are actually trained to adopt and embrace this attitude and belief right away along with emotional detachment and reductionism. We refer to the skewed results of this as ‘the clinical gaze.’

Once this I/thou splitting is accepted and takes psychological hold of those employing it, those under it’s spell fail to see, hear or understand any longer that , “That which you are observing is also observing you.”

We have always been there. Where have YOU been ‘taken’ so that you could not see us or hear us right in front of you?

This is A Picture of One of My Neighbours

Isn’t she sweet? She has nice gray hair, and looks so calm and gentle.Whenever I see her she purrs at me and looks for compliments and strokes from me. Yet as soon as I walk away and turn the corner, I hear a whole lot of hissing and if I look back she has her claws extended...I don’t think she knows I can see her doing that though. I find you can never tell for sure where you stand with cats...

Just Like Diabetes

So how many diabetics would you police services say you have to pick up and take to the emergency rooms every year? Do you have to cuff, or taser, a lot of these people always whining and complaining about their high blood sugar and/or insulin overdoses? You would think they would be grateful wouldn’t you, about all the help they are getting?
 

Well the belief from the ‘normal’ others’ perspective seems to go something like this:

It is OK if we talk about her right in front of her because she is stupid and/or crazy and will not understand what we are talking about anyway. At times, oblivious to their own irrationality, they even SAY that while I am standing there looking at them.

We whack jobs often think they are doing it on purpose because we don’t believe it is possible for people to be so stupid as to be that unaware of themselves, or us.

I just got a little fridge magnet to remind me of this groupthink routine which says,

 “Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups.”

I will try to lower my expectations so that I will not make that mistake again.

Self Promotion

One cannot appeal to the conscience of a sociopath as this is not what motivates him/her.

What motivates him/her is total self interest and all s/he does and says is with that end in mind. Therefore, the only way to stop one acting out for his/her own gain is to make it more personally beneficial to him/her to do so,  than to continue along in his/her ‘game.’

The same sort of thing applies to witnesses. If it costs them MORE to conceal the truth than it does to tell it, they will tend to co-operate out of self interest, not guilt or ethics, but out of the  same things which motivated many of them to conceal the truth in the first place. It is all about them.

'Schizo' Humour

Some of the same people  whom I do not know and who do not actually know me, but who have been assessing and evaluating me, my thoughts, my feelings, my life experience for the past seventeen years or so, are looking up ‘obsessing’ on the Internet as a possible new diagnosis for ME.

This is what I see from my point of view. Those of you determined to get me all straightened out of course, see no humour there. That is because you are so very busy externalizing it all. This is the kind of thing we 'nuts' laugh at 'for no reason', which means no reason that the obsessing 'normies' like YOU can see or understand.

What diagnosis would you give to a population of thousands that spends over 15 years, discussing, debating, and evaluating the life, experience and feelings of someone they don't even know? Why don't you look that up on the net and then all go out to the food court and evaluate your findings together. After that consensus reality is determined you can let the shoe salesman at the downtown mall know and all the folks in the twelve step groups what the latest diagnosis and evaluation of me is now. Remember though that if anyone should ask if you are doing that, you must deny it, look perplexed at the false accusation and then perhaps look up the meaning of 'denial' on the net as well.

A more concrete and local example of Schizo-humour would be to really think about the Homewood employee who likes to call me stupid from a few feet away, often joined by her mother. She has done this on the downtown streets, at the old Silver Dollar (referred to by me back then as the woman with the Big Orange Hair as I did not know who she was then) and in the cafeteria at Homewood on the day I was meeting someone to go and see Ed Perez face to face regarding my protagonist’s ‘game’ behaviour.

This one works in the Manor addictions program I think, though I never saw her in Homewood when I was working in there. I DID, however, see her husband there in the downstairs halls, eyes glowing with amusement and the usual little smirk on his face. (Be sure deny to it now and call it a perception problem that I am having.)

In any case I observed this one acting out her superior understanding at the big mall and this is an example of our ‘schizo’ humour that our superiors just don’t understand.

As I was going into the mall one day, Big Orange Hair was near the entrance as two girls about fourteen approached, saw her smoking and asked her for a couple of cigarettes. The one who considers herself to be my superior delivered these two a stern lecture about smoking and told them they should not be smoking at all. She who works in the addictions unit then supplied them with two cigarettes, while scowling her disapproval at them, oblivious to her own dual roles of supplier and enabler, something she tells others about all day on the addictions unit.  har har har ...

THIS is the kind of thing we whack jobs laugh at in psych hospitals for ‘no reason.’ Our superiors of course, have no idea WHY we are laughing and so conclude this is one of those mysterious ‘symptoms’ from which we suffer as inherently defective human beings.

As I once told Bateson: “I know why you’re laughing. It is a cosmic ‘joke.’

Big Orange Hair does not consider herself to have any problems in reason or behaviour. She believes my perception of that is my problem of perception/reaction, or she would think that, if she was at all aware of my awareness of her. It is more likely that she has no awareness of my awareness of her; the majority of my ‘superiors’ do not.


You know I was just thinking...

I remember another case when a man was expressing his feelings about being called ‘stupid’ by other people. He remembered what his mother had told him and that was, “Don’t let what such people as that say about you bother you at all. Just remember this that stupid is, as stupid does.”

                                                            Forrest Gump