Using the first person singular to share experiences, to self define, to identify in principle what helps and what does not help and learning or practising the doing of it from within our own solid, stable, strong, personal boundaries.
Why Do I Want First Person Singular Style of Posting Here?
Is it because I am just nit picky and difficult?
Nope.
It is because I want to create a comfortable and non threatening, and also non people pleasing place for the psychiatrized to express their own point of view on his or her experiences, and feelings about those experiences, as well as creating a way of sharing that, including, stating in the first person what worked, what did not work etc.
I do not want anyone else using this board, as a means of sharing, to feel either that he or she must get others to accept his or her way as a universal answer, or to find the same things to be THE answer for him/her, nor to feel overpowered by anyone else trying to control other individuals to feel the same way.
Staying in the first person singular allows for three things to take place simultaneously without creating more distress.
1. It allows the one speaking to self define and express a personal point of view without being stopped or ‘corrected’ by someone who is sure s/he understands the speakers concrete experience BETTER that they do. When we do this we create our own personal boundaries and they tend to get stronger with practise.
2. It allows others currently listening and perhaps being moved to post here also, to do the same and to feel s/he can be different in some things, have a somewhat different experience, and different feelings about it also, without being ‘corrected’ or straightened out by others posting. This is about mutual respect for personal boundaries.
3. It creates a true sharing space with a potentially vast resource for individuals to find what will work for them without being pressured by anyone to accept anything. That in turn may keep more people coming with more great ideas. So let’s share within good personal boundaries and see what develops from the method used to do it.
I think we may be surprised to discover some unexpected benefits.
If you don’t want to do it this way then maybe you should not post here. There are many places and groups that will welcome ongoing debate. There is nothing wrong with that either, in it’s place. I just don’t want it done here.
If you do decide you can handle the method used here , please continue to do the same thing when you are moved to reply to someone else. Keep the ‘you’s, everybodies and nobodies out of it. Say what you want but keep it in the first person singular. Don’t deny, correct, try to control, invalidate or ‘fix’ the other person. We can disagree for example by saying,"That did not work for me and this is why...here is something that worked for me and it may work for some others also...” (non threatening, non controlling, ideas attached directly to first person concrete experience with the ambiguity removed.)
A Few Simple Rules.
Do not use proper names of psychiatrists or indulge in personal attacks.
Do not threaten or suggest violence against self or others.
Do not tell anyone that they should or should not be on any meds.
These rules may evolve slightly as I see the need for it.