by Patricia Lefave, monophrenic  

Cautionary Note:

I must say here that I am aware that there are many people who have been psychiatrically labelled as sociopaths, who are in fact, NOT sociopaths and are most likely the victims of a sociopath's “game” themselves. That is, after all the frequent result of the TRUE sociopath's “game” when the reality of such situations is not see or understood by a group involved. 

What psychiatrists, and many others, who like to judge “us” as “defective' need to understand is that our protagonists, whether that is one person, or several, who target us deliberately, lie about us, abuse us in a variety of ways, mock us, ridicule us, and act out their contempt for us, KNOW, that we know, what they are doing, and ALSO KNOW, that we know, that THEY know it. This is precisely what makes their “game”, their con-test, so  enjoyable and so entertaining for them and what gives them their feeling of omnipotence.

They routinely 'switch positions” with their victims while claiming they don't know why their victims are behaving the way they are or accusing them “falsely.” the source of their power comes from manipulating a group of others who believe them and who then attack the victim on the abuser's behalf believing that their attack is actually a defence of the innocent “falsely accused” aggressor. This is how the group which joins in justifies it's abuse to itself.  It is alsslo why this type of aggressor SMILES, with 'satisfaction”, mostly to himself, or at his victim, when no one else is looking. The “satisfaction” by necessity, is of the “secrete” variety, and usually only the aggressor and his victim know WHY that is and that the abuser's “satisfaction” comes from “winning” his “game” without anyone than his invalidated victim OTHER else knowing or understanding HOW he did it.

This is done in various degrees by dysfunctional families, from a mild to an extreme form but the group dynamic remains the same. Basically though, the root of ALL of it is the old Bait and Switch con. The target, and then the group being manipulated to attack the target, don't see it or understand it because we aren't sociopaths and since we don't think LIKE sociopaths, we ALL look for “reason” (logic) where there never was any reason in the first place.

To the sociopath, that makes us ALL “stupid” and therefore 'deserving' of what we get. Since the point of the sociopath's “game” is to “prove” his “superiority”, in either understanding or inherent worth,  to himself, his “game” is rigged from the start to support his delusion which is self contained and his own psycho-spiritual fantasy world. Other people are no more than props in his delusional “game” and so he does not see them as being as “real” as himself.

Once we understand the sociopath's “game” is a self contained one, and exists as a closed system of delusional processing, which really has nothing to do with us, we become able to make sense of the previously senseless experience and of the senselessness of our relationship to and with him. There may be no reason IN what he does but there is a reason FOR it. When we see WHY and HOW he does, what he does, and how he suckers otherwise “normal” people into co-operating with his “hidden” agenda of domination and control, we stop looking for sense in the senseless and see the reality of him and our experience for exactly what “IT IS”[1]. Once seen for what IT IS, IT IS NO longer viable. The power of it is “secrecy” dependent. When you know how the trick is done, it tricks no one. When you understand the game from start to finish, and know that is it the one playing the game that is the real idiot,  it is GAME OVER.