How many times over the course of my life do you think I tried to talk to my father about his manipulations, his 'covert” story telling, and his enlisting the aid of others to pressure me into “compliance” with HIS definitions of me?
Let me give you a hint.
I have a very clear memory of an incident from when I was about ten years old.  Though I no longer remember the topic, I DO Remember saying to my father, “But that doesn't even make any sense.”
I also remember the reaction I got to that which was a flash of rage that crossed his face but which he quickly got under control and then made some calm sounding response like, “you may think you understand some things but you don't. Don't you think your parents understand more about life than you do?”
Of course, when I thought about that logically, I had to agree that was true. It WAS true too. But, what I did NOT know, or really understand, at ten years old, was that not everyone is always operating on logic in all that they think, say and do. So I spent a lot of time looking for “reason” (logic) where there was no reason. As you now know that last phrase can mean either no logic or no motivation for something. There is ALWAYS motivation of one kind or another, but the motivation is not always “logical.”
At ten years old I did not yet know that. So that meant then that I was also looking for “hidden meaning”, which I assumed the parents, and others, already had, in much the same way that psychiatrists look for hidden meaning except, of course, when I look for it I'm crazy, and when you look for it you're geniuses. (splitting the difference you might say)
I assumed the parents had this but were just not willing, or able, to explain it to me. I assumed that if they did explain it to me, that it would allow me then to make sense of something that I was currently seeing as not logical.
Now, Alan, Brian and Ken:
Now, do you notice any metaphysical similarity there to the est training concepts?You might...if only you had the time to look; which of course, you don't.
I suggest you look at the similarities between family dysfunction on a group level, organizations considered to be cults, or cult-like, est, and the work of the late Heinz Leymann and also include in this, sociologist Ken Westhues at the University of Waterloo.
This is a psycho-social problem; NOT individual disease process “like diabetes.” It's metaphysical; not physical.
One of the common traits of manipulators with hidden agendas is THEIR delusional belief that those they are manipulating, those in relation to whom they are proving their superiority to themselves, will see, hear, know and understand ONLY what the manipulator intends them to, and not what he does not intend. From OUR point of view though, we are seeing and hearing, manipulations, head games, a duplicitous bombardment of contradictory information and multiple choice “reality.” This disconnect from CONCRETE detail which we become unable to identify to stay connected, is the common trigger for psychosis. That can be done to ANYONE.
Now think of what these words have in common:
subject, case, object, piece of furniture, and “item.”
You are objectifying me.
You know that aphorism, 'we can't see where we are going but we can see where we have been.” well, those of us who have been farther along the metaphysical road to “Oz” can see farther than those coming up from behind us on the same road.
Now that statement should trigger the auto response in all the co-operative dysfunctional folk along these lines; “it was a long time ago...why is she still “crying” about that?' etc.