Your psychology changes when you understand that the ego which sees a “thou” is not the same as the ego that sees an “it.”
The Power of Myth
Or the ego that sees a walking talking "disease" process....
External reality changes because of that too. When I relate as equals to those who are relating to me as an “item”, or “case” there may be an appearance of communication going on when in fact there is none at all; for without thinking in the same context, words are all but meaningless. This is what Dale T. learned in his est training. He also learned that what people believe it all means depends upon where THEY see the starting point, “the start of the action.” So if you think I'm the one who targeted HIM.....it means one thing, but if you knew it was a kind of “master plan” (in both senses of the word, yuk yuk...) it means something quite different.
Are all “est-ees” sociopaths? No. This connects to motivations, intellectual understanding, emotional health , awareness levels etc. But the same words, the same concepts, are, in part, GIVEN the level and the form of meaning by the subjective projections of the one hearing them, and then acting on, what that one is hearing. Some may hear a piece of information that will help them understand their current or former relationships by “getting” where some problem person was coming from or even what was wrong with his, or her, own thinking. (enlightenment ) Others will hear it as a way of gaining control over other people in a way that those others do not understand and could never PROVE. (power) Many will not be able to make any sense of it at all as there is nothing, or not enough, in their own experiences which would allow them to do so and no concrete framework to give it physical meaning for them. Without concrete evidence proving anything one way, or the other, it has little or no meaning, in and of, itself. That is why it was said, “reality is all a matter of perspective.”
That was one of the aphorisms passed around at the time of the popularity of this thing.
Those who like to tell me I can't “blame others” don't seem to have any problem at all blaming me, even though from their point of view I AM an “other” whom they are blaming for what happens to me since I am “choosing” to be a victim. One of the things that is consistent throughout this whole game is the blatant use of the double standard by those who do not relate from an I-thou psychology but rather from a human-”item” or “thing”psychology. The ego that thinks in such terms does not see reality at all but only the delusional belief in his “superiority.” That one is conning himself best of all. He will end up caught in his own snare and likely be too smug and “superior” to see it coming.