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“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”
Jerry Seinfeld
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| Making Nothing Out of a Big Deal |
01/04/2012 |
| By Patricia Lefave
Dysfunctional people who like to dominate other by operating with hidden agendas also like to make nothing out of a big deal. That is because minimizing and trivializing the destructive effects of what they do allows them to avoid accountability for it. To that end, the blame their victims perceptions and reactions ... More> |
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| Two Young Developing Bullshidiots |
12/18/2011 |
| Working in a Grocery Store[1]
By Patricia Lefave
Next Stop: Dysfunctional Realities
This is out of my own experience.
The Scene:
Two guys about fifteen or sixteen were stacking shelves together. They spot me as one of those “inferiors” who has been pointed out to them before, so one says to the other, “There she is... is ... More> |
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| Bullies are Self Deluded Idiots |
12/15/2011 |
| By Patricia Lefave
Next Stop: Dysfunctional Realities
That is the source of their motivation for doing what they do and that exists within THEM and has little, or nothing, to do with anyone else. It is important for you to know that if you are going to be able to deal with them in an effective way. The delusion upon which they ... More> |
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| Is It What or WHO? |
10/16/2011 |
| By Patricia Lefave, Monophrenic
It is inherent in the practise of dysfunction to keep the dysfunctional system closed by blaming those who recognize the nature of the dysfunctional group relating and say so right out loud. The dysfunctional group agrees that this is the one with the problem for fault finding and not the ones who see ... More> |
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| It is ALWAYS About Boundary Violation |
10/08/2011 |
| By Patricia Lefave Monophrenic (single minded)
From targeting a family member for group “teasing” and ridiculing to rioting to committing murder, it all comes from the same psycho-spiritual “space”- the “them/us” or “superior/inferior” premise of thought. It is not about “what” is happening but about “who” it is happening to OR who is ... More> |
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The Trees of the Forest
I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.
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Speculation
What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?
Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?
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Dysfunctional Group Behaviour
It seems to me it is really just the sibling rivalry, often created and encouraged by the generation before, which goes unrecognized and unresolved. Often, even at the time of our death, we are still trying to please our parents who represent the authority figures who can never be questioned, blamed or held accountable, and whom we are still trying to make see us as we really are and grant us a seal of approval we cannot get. In short, the majority fail to detach from the fantasy parent and the family romance and finally just grow up.
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YOUR GATEWAY TO
THE SCIENTIFIC STUDY OF GANGING UP
"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois
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