Dysfunctional Realities



Regarding the 'Imbalance'
I believe there IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!
 
 

“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld
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Making Nothing Out of a Big Deal 01/04/2012

By Patricia Lefave 

Dysfunctional people who like to dominate other by operating with hidden agendas also like to make nothing out of a big deal. That is because minimizing and trivializing the destructive effects of what they do allows them to avoid accountability for it. To that end, the blame their victims perceptions and reactions about, and to, them and routinely claim that their “inferiors” are “just making a big deal out of nothing.”

Creating doubt about who is whom keeps “reality” nice and murky and those in “hiding” pretty well hidden from most others...but not from ALL others.

The one they are trying to dominate of course does not really matter at all to those doing the dominating. It is only the group observing the action which they must convince to accept the reality of the situation as the opposite of itself. That is because those who use hidden agendas to dominate know that most people will accept without question, a reality that is defined by group consensus. When it comes to the domination 'game' what the one being forced into a submissive role thinks feels or understands does not really matter at all. In fact, if that one comes to understand how the dominating one accomplished it, so much the better, as at least someone understands how he got to be the “winner” in the contest that no one even knew they were in with him. That is where he gets his satisfaction and the “win” reinforces his belief in his superiority and infallibility...right up to the very moment he picks the wrong victim.

 
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The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.

Speculation

 

What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?

 

 

 

Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?

 

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