Dysfunctional Realities



Regarding the 'Imbalance'
I believe there IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!
 
 

“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld
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Status quo and belonging 06/18/2010
 

1. Protective Circle

 

Dysfunction feeds itself with it's own splitting and denial.

It then projects it's own splitting  and denial onto those who state the obvious and point it out, because stating the obvious threatens the dysfunctional way. Secrecy and 'covert' behaviour is absolutely vital to the maintenance of dysfunctional relating. Dysfunction protects itself by creating, and maintaining itself, as a closed system. This is the 'circle' which is often perceived somewhat vaguely, by those upon whom the dysfunction is projected, who often break down under group pressure, and who end up defined as the 'sick one.'

 

 

2. Bonding...

Dysfunctional people in groups, bond with each other by looking for the character flaws in those who don’t join them, in looking for character flaws. That way, the whole group can feel a sense of belonging while projecting their own traits onto an external target who ‘deserves’ it.

 

Did you know that psychopaths are classified as ‘extroverts’?

 
 
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The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.

Speculation

 

What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?

 

 

 

Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?

 

Dysfunctional Group Behaviour 

It seems to me it is really just the sibling rivalry, often created and encouraged by the generation before, which goes unrecognized and unresolved. Often, even at the time of our death, we are still trying to please our parents who represent the authority figures who can never be questioned, blamed or held accountable, and whom we are still trying to make see us as we really are and grant us a seal of approval we cannot get. In short, the majority  fail to detach from the fantasy parent and the family romance and finally just grow up.

YOUR GATEWAY TO

THE SCIENTIFIC STUDY OF GANGING UP
"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois
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