...Breaking The Chains and Ending the Cycle


On Scapegoating


Dysfunctional groups of all types employ scapegoating as a means of blowing off suppressed emotions. Socially sanctioned targets are selected and used by a usually non verbal, but sometimes verbal, agreement.  This is a very effective method for releasing emotional pressure, for the whole group especially since the reason for it is denied. Better still is the tautology created which keeps it all going when the scapegoating itself is denied to exist and claimed by the group to be a perception/reaction problem the scapegoat is having which justifies the treatment of the group.

Nothing keeps a dysfunctional system going like keeping it closed to external interference or examination. The scapegoat can then be 'fixed' for complaining about his/her artificially constructed and imposed social position which has now been denied to even exist. Fixing the complainer for complaining is now socially sanctioned as well.

All escape routes are then successfully blocked.


When Does Con-fidentiality or Privacy
 Become Secrecy?


When the people keeping it all Con-fidential are doing so to protect themselves, and their own interests, while allowing their victim(s) to pay the ongoing price for it.

Ontario Provincial Police
Warns Public About Website
 March 2010

Ontario Provincial Police (OPP) in cooperation with the Ontario Corrections Intelligence Unit are warning the public about certain criminal websites possibly being used by thieves to break into your home when you are away. These websites used by criminals are linked to popular social networking websites. On these social networking websites (which are legitimate) you can update your profile to inform your friends as to when you are away from your residence and for how long. Certain criminal websites extracts this information and posts it on its pages and informs their users in any part of the world which houses are empty and at what times. When you consider how many millions of people use social networking websites around the world, the effects can be huge. The public is reminded that items posted on social networking websites are available to all on the web and not all persons on the web are “friends”. Please restrict what you put on your networking page(s) including photos of your residence/address, photos of vehicles including plate numbers and any up to the minute information as to your whereabouts, keep that for your local friends/people you know personally.


The Most Common Inappropriate Affect?


I believe that would be the laughter of the presumably ‘normal’ and sane folk as they treat the destruction of an individual’s life, mind and all around well being, as if it was entertainment.'

It is the favourite reality show for the mindless masses who consider themselves to be representational of mental ‘health.’



We Regret to Announce the Death of:
Alice Miller, Psychoanalyst, Dies at 87;  



Related Many Problems to Parental Acts
Alice Miller, a psychoanalyst who repositioned the family as a locus of dysfunction with her theory that parental power and punishment lay at the root of many human problems, died at her home in Provence on April 14. She was 87.

For full article click on the link in her name


The Answer to the Question,We Ask Our Covert Controllers-- WHY are You Doing This to Me?
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Delusional Reversal Times Two

...And a Few Other Thoughts, Hopefully not too 'Disordered' for You...

By Patricia Lefave, Monophrenic

It is my contention that psychiatrists don't give those they label the ''schizophrenics" enough credit for understanding and awareness and conversely, that those labelled the schizophrenics are giving psychiatrists, and many others as well, far too MUCH credit for understanding and awareness. This mutual delusion creates a whole lot of chaos and confusion all round.

Has it not occurred to you that many of the 'genetic defectives' picked up and labelled in this, in Nazi Germany, by psychiatrists[1] were labelled because they had spoken up and warned others of the fascist agenda they had seen, which those 'others' did NOT see?

I personally think psychiatry should look for the malformed gene that causes psychiatrists to actually believe that they can understand other people's entire lives and experiences by listening to people they have just met, for ten to fifteen minutes. They do this by listening for the abstract ideas behind the concrete details of what people say. So while we sit there speaking of things in concrete terms, believing we are being heard, the psychiatrists' (when they are thinking like psychiatrists according to Gordon Warme, M.D.,) have their eyes rolled up in their heads looking for the conceptual match in their own programming. I mean really...how bizarre an idea is that?

This is a self serving business and there is no other like it. The mental illness business is the ONLY business for which consumer complaints about the product cause an INCREASE in the ability of the business to force the product on the consumer who does not want it.

Message off the TV

Exploiting an 'asset' is easier when they have an addiction you can feed.

Michael, ex 'spy"

on Burn Notice

On Group think

You see, the group covering up for the abuser is really motivated by covering up their own "participation" in the abuse. It also conceals the fact that otherwise 'normal,' average people can so easily be manipulated by one person who convinces them they represent the 'superior' human[2] beings. This is how they are moved into the psychological position to join in the abuse of the victim(s). They are also trying to conceal the fact that they ENJOY doing it.

Soon, I am going to just spell out, in a list for you, the concepts of the est-ee nurse's so called training, so that you can see how to connect your group behaviour, "out here in the world of reality" to the conceptual pattern that lies behind it and with which you have all been manipulated by the ones with the "hidden" agenda of domination. You see from MY point of view, it was the opposite. I had to find the means to make sense of my CONCRETE experience of all of you, and all the chaos and confusion you created, which you had partly 'concealed', by finding the missing information that would allow me to sort it out. That missing information was the conceptual pattern or "play" which is laid out in the est training which I found in a book in 99 and more of it online after 2001. I already understood most of it because I have seen this group behaviour before, though it was not called 'est' in other cases. The contents of the training is kept 'secret' by those who use it for Power.

"Do not share the contents of the training with non estians as it will only confuse them."[3]

That is a nexus statement which is both positive and negative AT THE SAME TIME. It means nothing because it can mean anything.

It suggests that explaining it to others would confuse them, and those motivated by a desire to keep others from being confused will keep it secret for that misguided reason. OR it suggests to sociopaths, who are after power and control of 'items' (which COULD mean people reduced to the level of OBJECTS) that if they keep the contents (concepts) of the training secret, and just share the experience (concretize it) of it, it will confuse their "item." If confusion was the goal, (which in est is set FIRST) then the sociopath in this training just might hear that as an instruction to gain power and control might he not? It only gains any meaning as a concept when it is used in some way in connection to the details of concrete reality. (The devil is in the DETAILS)

[1] Let me be sure to add the ever popular "bona fide' to that...

[2] Not unlike those old "Aryans" huh?

[3] An example of the "meaninglessness' of est


Assholes- The Next Generation-

             Keep performing for us

I found this book VERY helpful and I think many of my readers will too. It is not new, but new enough that it may still be available in libraries.

A Few Words and Phrases From:


Emotional Blackmail

By Susan Forward, PhD.



“Why can’t I ever get my point across?...Blackmailers can skillfully mask the pressure they are applying to us, and often, we experience it in ways that make us question our perception of what’s happening…Yet, no matter how different they appear on the surface, they all have major traits in common…

…The people we are coming up against in these can’t-win situations are skilled manipulators.


Chapter 1:

Diagnosis: Emotional Blackmail

Sub section:  What’s the real motive?

If someone’s primary goal is ‘to win…’ There’s no balance of power…


Chapter 2:

The Four Faces of Blackmail:

Punishers, Self Punishers, Sufferers and Tantalizers.


3. Their Blind Spots—and Ours

“…They genuinely believe in the correctness of what they are doing and the rightness of what they want…They tend to fuse and enmesh themselves with those around them.


Chapter 4:

(My own favourite Chapter: I feel like I could also name this one “Psychiatric Blackmail: tools of the trade’, since it fits so well)


Tools of the Trade:

Sub headings

The Spin Doctor, Confusing Labels, Making us ‘Bad’, Pathologizing, What’s Wrong with YOU?, Dangerous secrets, Enlisting Allies, Bringing in Fresh Troops, Calling on a Hidden Authority, (God, psychiatrists etc.) Negative Comparisons (to others who are ‘better’ than you because they co-operate)

‘…The ‘spin involves applying adjectives—positive ones to the blackmailer and the compliant target; negative ones to the person who resists… The experience is disorienting…we begin to internalize the blackmailer’s questions about our perceptions, our character, our worth, our desirability, our values. We are trapped in a dense FOG…We buy into the spin because we want our friends, lovers, bosses and family members to be right and good, not mean unfeeling or oppressive…


Sub Heading

It’s All About Them

…‘All the blackmailers we’ve seen are focused almost totally on THEIR needs, THEIR desires; they don’t seem to be the least bit interested in OUR needs or how their pressure is affecting us. Blackmailers can be like steamrollers when we don’t satisfy them, becoming ruthless in their single minded pursuit of their goals…It is a strange kind of love that is so blind to the target’s feelings…


Making Mountains Out of Molehills

Sub heading

Teaching us a Lesson


…’Insults an infantilizing are similarly explained away with the, ‘it’s for your own good rationale… there are attractive payoffs to clinging to this erroneous idea of punishment as training. Blackmailers can live with almost anything if they can make targets seem like dunces…In this way they can avoid any introspection…’



Old Battles, New Victims

…’the blackmailer strikes out at a target who has become a stand-in for a figure from the past…’ (this is known as acting out on a surrogate)


The Blame- Taker

…’ In fact, they [blackmailers] demand that we buy into it. If they’re displeased, we’re the problem. And our compliance with them is the solution. Under pressure from her family to recant or face exile…She had become the family scapegoat… it is not uncommon for one person to become the repository of everything that goes wrong in the family…in order to keep everyone else in balance…It is especially tough to believe your own perceptions are valid when people you love are telling you how crazy, wrong or sick you are…


A Vicious Cycle

 ..”It was a totally no-win situation…Under pressure we do something that doesn’t fit with who we are…”


Rationalizing and Justifying

“Protecting our integrity can be frightening and lonely…She did what many blackmail targets do given a choice between being true to themselves and complying with what someone else wants: she rationalized.’


The Impact on Our Well Being

‘Emotional blackmail leaves us full of unexpressed smoldering feelings.’

The Impact on the Relationship

Shutting Down

Targets of emotional blackmail become so accustomed to negative judgments disapproval, pressure and overreactions that…they are reluctant to share major parts of their lives. We stop talking about… (listed)…Just below the artificial calm that surrounds a placated blackmailer and a target who has given in, is the widening chasm that is opening between them….In a blackmail tainted situation, relationships with friends , lovers and family members that once had real depth begins to get thinner as the roster of safe topics shrinks.’

A New Dance

Be prepared for even more pressure as blackmailers try to regain their position.