...Breaking The Chains and Ending the Cycle

 
 
 
 
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On Scapegoating

 

Dysfunctional groups of all types employ scapegoating as a means of blowing off suppressed emotions. Socially sanctioned targets are selected and used by a usually non verbal, but sometimes verbal, agreement.  This is a very effective method for releasing emotional pressure, for the whole group especially since the reason for it is denied. Better still is the tautology created which keeps it all going when the scapegoating itself is denied to exist and claimed by the group to be a perception/reaction problem the scapegoat is having which justifies the treatment of the group.

Nothing keeps a dysfunctional system going like keeping it closed to external interference or examination. The scapegoat can then be 'fixed' for complaining about his/her artificially constructed and imposed social position which has now been denied to even exist. Fixing the complainer for complaining is now socially sanctioned as well.

All escape routes are then successfully blocked.

 


When Does Con-fidentiality or Privacy
 Become Secrecy?


 

When the people keeping it all Con-fidential are doing so to protect themselves, and their own interests, while allowing their victim(s) to pay the ongoing price for it.



Ontario Provincial Police
Warns Public About Website
 
 March 2010
                                  

Ontario Provincial Police (OPP) in cooperation with the Ontario Corrections Intelligence Unit are warning the public about certain criminal websites possibly being used by thieves to break into your home when you are away. These websites used by criminals are linked to popular social networking websites. On these social networking websites (which are legitimate) you can update your profile to inform your friends as to when you are away from your residence and for how long. Certain criminal websites extracts this information and posts it on its pages and informs their users in any part of the world which houses are empty and at what times. When you consider how many millions of people use social networking websites around the world, the effects can be huge. The public is reminded that items posted on social networking websites are available to all on the web and not all persons on the web are “friends”. Please restrict what you put on your networking page(s) including photos of your residence/address, photos of vehicles including plate numbers and any up to the minute information as to your whereabouts, keep that for your local friends/people you know personally.

 



The Most Common Inappropriate Affect?

 

I believe that would be the laughter of the presumably ‘normal’ and sane folk as they treat the destruction of an individual’s life, mind and all around well being, as if it was entertainment.'

It is the favourite reality show for the mindless masses who consider themselves to be representational of mental ‘health.’

 

 

We Regret to Announce the Death of:
Alice Miller, Psychoanalyst, Dies at 87;  

 

 

Related Many Problems to Parental Acts
Alice Miller, a psychoanalyst who repositioned the family as a locus of dysfunction with her theory that parental power and punishment lay at the root of many human problems, died at her home in Provence on April 14. She was 87.

For full article click on the link in her name

 

 
 
The Answer to the Question,We Ask Our Covert Controllers-- WHY are You Doing This to Me?
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HOW Everything and Nothing are the Same Thing

Once again superior people, all "certain that you know" and who are STILL "looking for reason" in the estian "game.

e. s.t. Is about using the SAME WORDS to mean abstract ideas AND concrete things. THAT is the Zen-like "integration of opposites, and WHY you must say, "and" and not "but" in estian terms. So that when/if the est-ee says, "nothing happened," that equates to saying, "e.s.t. Happened." It also integrates the concrete reality of It with the abstract idea and the two become "one." The concrete definition of est, it's other NAME is "NOTHING."

The abstractions are delivered without emotional content because emotion CHANGES meaning.

It is like if I say to you; Nobody cares, Nobody likes you, Nobody wants you, nobody has an interest in you, nobody can get to you, nobody hates you, nobody really wants you outta here, nobody cares about your reality, etc.

What do those statements MEAN to you? Are they pretty obvious to you and to most people? If I see and hear more there than you do, am I crazy or stupid?  Are the statements positive, negative or what?

Are you sure?

Now just suppose that I am a person with a hidden agenda and the piece of information which I deliberately kept from you, just so that I could have some "fun" watching you growing in distress and confusion, was this one thing:

My NAME is "Nobody."

Got that?

Now read all of the same statements again while knowing that. What do exactly the SAMEWORDS mean NOW?

Now try changing my name "Nobody" to the first person pronoun, "I" in all of the same statements. Notice how they become the exact opposite of what you thought they were?

Test It.

This is what the "bunch of words" which are the estian abstractions are all about. They are meaningless in the absence of specific context. It is not "life" that is meaningless. It is e.s.t. that is meaningless.  

Another way to say the same thing: the meaning of est is that est is meaningless. (infinite loop) Zen-like as in saying, they never get the point and that IS the point.  WHY? Because you keep looking for reason where there is no reason and where there never was any reason in the first place.

Context is what gives words there meaning and it is the trainees which provide the words with their OWN context, which they "choose" for themselves. The guru never tells them exactly what to think. They are responsible for what they "choose" to think It means.

Many people are triggered into psychosis because of a disconnect from concrete reality, often caused by an information overload. To ASSUME that overload is being generated by the individuals' "faulty brain", rather than real life circumstances and/or other people, is quite a judgmental leap. But perhaps it is one made most of the time because of the ever present and long standing dysfunctional group rule against "blaming others."

Many of us humans like to mouth this very piously, and frequently, even as "we" blame as many of those "others” as 'we" can for trying to blame "us."

WHO exactly, is to blame for genocides and for bombing hospitals and preschoolers in the name of correcting or straightening out our "reality"?

I think I may have the answer to that one, if what has happened here locally, ("Nothing”) in my own "fascinating case', is any kind f indication of just how FAR superior people are willing to go....

Is it perhaps, "NOBODY"?

Now return to the starting point and read all the same words again. What do they mean NOW? Do you know what words mean yet?

Be sure to check with the self defined est-ee nurse so he can let you know if you are "getting It" yet.

I got IT a long time ago (both ways) I got;

The understanding (comprehension) AND I got the UNDERstanding, (inferior status ) from the one who picked his goal to 'win"  FIRST (Total control I assume) THEN "played the game."

That is how he gets to be a real winner in the game of life, which is meaningless anyway, according to his training and therefore there are no rules one needs to follow. Since there are no rules all the real "winners" in life are opened up to "limitless possibilities" aren't they?

I am just too stupid and inferior (as a non estian) to know that. Surely we can ALL get that by now, can we not?

Don't you worry est-ee, Nobody is going to get YOU for IT.

 Now...you won't take that the wrong way, will you? I sure hope not. After all, I'm Nobody, so what would I know about It?

Now as you listen to and look at the estian structure, just for more “fun” think about It “as if” it was the metaphysical abstraction based on the Holocaust. Remember that one? The one after which all the deniers blamed the victims until they got to the point where Willy Brandt finally had to make it ILLEGAL to deny the existence of the Holocaust and the claim that “NOTHING happened, or that the victims were just “exaggerating” It all? That is out of our human history. They even wrote it down.

But then perhaps it is just another coincidence and my own capacity for imagining these things that causes me to perceive the estian structure, as split down the middle, between aggressors and victims, recreated by one person who is playing both “sides” at the same time, both as a “German” persona AND a Jewish man (uhhh...Episcopalian) who is demonstrating to us how “Everything and Nothing are the same thing.”

What “lesson” might we all learn from this “experienced experience”?

What might we all become “enlightened” about?

Let’s just THINK about that shall we? For according to my own protagonist, “We think, but we don’t THINK…”

Now, here is my estian style disclaimer which will make whatever YOU choose to believe or not believe here entirely up to you......"Don't believe ANYTHING I say."

Now whatever you choose to believe or not believe is entirely your responsibility.

That's what it is about you know: RESPONSIBILITY

At the nexus of meaning, I agree.

Here; have your “prize” back.

Assholes- The Next Generation-

             Keep performing for us

I found this book VERY helpful and I think many of my readers will too. It is not new, but new enough that it may still be available in libraries.

A Few Words and Phrases From:

 

Emotional Blackmail

By Susan Forward, PhD.

 

 

“Why can’t I ever get my point across?...Blackmailers can skillfully mask the pressure they are applying to us, and often, we experience it in ways that make us question our perception of what’s happening…Yet, no matter how different they appear on the surface, they all have major traits in common…

…The people we are coming up against in these can’t-win situations are skilled manipulators.

 

Chapter 1:

Diagnosis: Emotional Blackmail

Sub section:  What’s the real motive?

If someone’s primary goal is ‘to win…’ There’s no balance of power…

 

Chapter 2:

The Four Faces of Blackmail:

Punishers, Self Punishers, Sufferers and Tantalizers.

 

3. Their Blind Spots—and Ours

“…They genuinely believe in the correctness of what they are doing and the rightness of what they want…They tend to fuse and enmesh themselves with those around them.

 

Chapter 4:

(My own favourite Chapter: I feel like I could also name this one “Psychiatric Blackmail: tools of the trade’, since it fits so well)

 

Tools of the Trade:

Sub headings

The Spin Doctor, Confusing Labels, Making us ‘Bad’, Pathologizing, What’s Wrong with YOU?, Dangerous secrets, Enlisting Allies, Bringing in Fresh Troops, Calling on a Hidden Authority, (God, psychiatrists etc.) Negative Comparisons (to others who are ‘better’ than you because they co-operate)

‘…The ‘spin involves applying adjectives—positive ones to the blackmailer and the compliant target; negative ones to the person who resists… The experience is disorienting…we begin to internalize the blackmailer’s questions about our perceptions, our character, our worth, our desirability, our values. We are trapped in a dense FOG…We buy into the spin because we want our friends, lovers, bosses and family members to be right and good, not mean unfeeling or oppressive…

 

Sub Heading

It’s All About Them

…‘All the blackmailers we’ve seen are focused almost totally on THEIR needs, THEIR desires; they don’t seem to be the least bit interested in OUR needs or how their pressure is affecting us. Blackmailers can be like steamrollers when we don’t satisfy them, becoming ruthless in their single minded pursuit of their goals…It is a strange kind of love that is so blind to the target’s feelings…

 

Making Mountains Out of Molehills

Sub heading

Teaching us a Lesson

 

…’Insults an infantilizing are similarly explained away with the, ‘it’s for your own good rationale… there are attractive payoffs to clinging to this erroneous idea of punishment as training. Blackmailers can live with almost anything if they can make targets seem like dunces…In this way they can avoid any introspection…’

 

 

Old Battles, New Victims

…’the blackmailer strikes out at a target who has become a stand-in for a figure from the past…’ (this is known as acting out on a surrogate)

 

The Blame- Taker

…’ In fact, they [blackmailers] demand that we buy into it. If they’re displeased, we’re the problem. And our compliance with them is the solution. Under pressure from her family to recant or face exile…She had become the family scapegoat… it is not uncommon for one person to become the repository of everything that goes wrong in the family…in order to keep everyone else in balance…It is especially tough to believe your own perceptions are valid when people you love are telling you how crazy, wrong or sick you are…

 

A Vicious Cycle

 ..”It was a totally no-win situation…Under pressure we do something that doesn’t fit with who we are…”

 

Rationalizing and Justifying

“Protecting our integrity can be frightening and lonely…She did what many blackmail targets do given a choice between being true to themselves and complying with what someone else wants: she rationalized.’

 

The Impact on Our Well Being

‘Emotional blackmail leaves us full of unexpressed smoldering feelings.’

The Impact on the Relationship

Shutting Down

Targets of emotional blackmail become so accustomed to negative judgments disapproval, pressure and overreactions that…they are reluctant to share major parts of their lives. We stop talking about… (listed)…Just below the artificial calm that surrounds a placated blackmailer and a target who has given in, is the widening chasm that is opening between them….In a blackmail tainted situation, relationships with friends , lovers and family members that once had real depth begins to get thinner as the roster of safe topics shrinks.’

A New Dance

Be prepared for even more pressure as blackmailers try to regain their position.

 

 
   
 
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