Dysfunctional Realities


Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!

Dysfunctional Power Struggle

Aggressor: Don't listen to HER! She is only SAYING I did that to seek attention.

Opposite side, rarely heard: Don't listen to HIM. He is only SAYING “don't listen to her,” to avoid having any unwanted attention focused on him.

Friends are not always Friends

Is Terry Jones Popular?

I would bet he is more popular than I am

As far as having 'lots of friends' goes, do you automatically think that being surrounded by friends is a sign of mental health and that not having many friends is a sign of mental illness? That's formula thinking. That's' done by people who believe that there is a 'correct' way for humans to be living and relating and an 'incorrect one' and that circumstance and external reality have nothing at all to do with it. Psychiatry thinks very much like that now, reducing all of life to disorders and syndromes and calling it all problems with the brain, (hardware) which they equate DIRECTLY, and without difference, to mind. (software) This is especially since the 'behaviourist' days have come into fashion, with its stimulus/response bit, and this is accepted by most people since psychiatry is regarded as the 'authority' on life. The failure to question self professed 'authority' has causes and endless supply of unnecessary suffering on earth. Take your blinders off.

Think of who else was surrounded by loads of friends to begins.

Napoleon had tons of friends and supporters.

Nazis had great parties which included all the 'highly sophisticated' members of society in Germany at the time.

Jim Jones had devoted followers and tons of friends.

Idi Amin was really quite popular with his own group.

The pig farmer serial killer in B.C. was a regular party boy and the door was always open to his 'friends.' His friends would not be my friends, and I am sure they would not like me at all since they would consider me to be anti-social compared to them. But you see, to me, anti social is murdering people after you smile at them and offer them a party as bait. On a less violent level, anti social is also fabricating rumours, spreading them covertly, mocking and ridiculing people you don't really know and then expecting them to smile at you because you convince yourself that your behaviour is OK as long as the ones you are gossiping about don't know you are doing it. Not only is that anti-social it is also delusional and I would call it having 'unrealistic expectations' as well.

None of these people, and any others like them, could do, what they do without the support of large numbers of 'friends.'

It is easy to be popular with a whole group of people as long as you are willing to adopt the group's belief system. If you aren't, you may well find yourself isolated and attacked for being seen as a threat to the group's cohesion, which depends upon its members' support. It is not so easy to stick to a truth nobody likes. As ex psychoanalyst, the late Alice Miller puts it in her own writing about dysfunctional families and child abuse, "you will be alone with your truth."

So here we are now with the small group 'superior' Christians acting out in disrespect for other human beings in that ever popular "them and us" generalized way and conversely the group they are acting out again is responding to the provocation in the same old way with more threats shouting "death to America." From where I sit BOTH of these minority group out of the larger population are behaving EXACTLY the same way. To disempower this idiocy both of the larger groups to which these minority radicals belong must speak out clearly and precisely against this kind of thinking and behaviour. The Christians against the threatening, badly behaved Christians and the Muslims against the threatening, badly behaved Muslims. Both sides must condemn the reactionary counter threats as the wrong way to go and you must SAY so publicly. Even better is if non radical Christians and Muslims join together publicly to do it. Silence will be 'interpreted' by both sides of radicals as 'approval.' Getting off the level of 'differences' and onto the level of universal principles of agreement of both faiths, expressed in a generic way will help to reduce and end the hatred and join together those who are 'different' in the details of their faith with a common spirit of being and mutual respect. Isn't that really what both 'sides' really want and claim they are all about?

No one kills in the name of God (any of the names) when God commands we do not kill. Period.There is no codicil added by lawyers saying, "well unless you think someone really 'deserves' it."

If you doubt that, then instead of burning your respective Books why don't you read them?


Patricia Lefave 9/24/2010
Hello my old friend. I am not telling YOU specifically to read the books but some others who might benefit from it uncluding those who use them to justify abuse.
why do you tell me to read the bible? I've read it tons of times and I believe everybody will be saved, god puts us in hell and out of it, BUT why does society open my head, is it so much different than what others think? why arent all heads open but mine?

The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.



What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?




Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?



"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois


“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

Schizophrenic Zen

 The people who are talking about us exclude THEMSELVES from the identification process regarding the people who we “think” are talking about us.  These are the same people who lower their eyes and talk out of the sides of their mouths as the means of rendering themselves invisible and inaudible when talking about us, from one to ten feet away. Having achieved this state of being through the use of the cloak of invisibility and the cone of silence, they then know they cannot be the people doing all the talking. They think it must be awful to have a disease that causes us to think people are talking about us and they are sure glad they don’t have an illness like that.

Don’t laugh. They will help us if you do.