Dysfunctional Realities

 


Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!


Dysfunctional Power Struggle

Aggressor: Don't listen to HER! She is only SAYING I did that to seek attention.

Opposite side, rarely heard: Don't listen to HIM. He is only SAYING “don't listen to her,” to avoid having any unwanted attention focused on him.

Getting Along

"Getting along" isn't about agreeing with whomever you happen to be talking to at the time no matter what they say or do. That's an act, a performance and not really getting along. It's actually patronizing since you are "humouring" people and/or needing them to "humour" you.

What that actually does is generate chaos and confusion and those who appear to 'get along' in that way are the source of that.

Getting along is actually about having some personal boundaries and acknowledging that others don't need to be you, or become the object of your contempt and ridicule if they don't. Conversely you don't need to become them or justify it if you don't. When this mutual respect is running in BOTH directions at the same time, it works and we all "get along," minus all the ridicule and contempt and the lying about it.

You don't need to figure out why you "don't know" that the reason some of those you hold in such contempt, those you routinely malign to others, don't smile at you and "get along" the same way you and those like you appear to "get along."

You need to figure out why you DON'T KNOW that the reason those others don't smile at you and get along with you, on your terms is BECAUSE they KNOW you are two faced, see nothing wrong with it, and find even more fault in those you treat that way for seeing it, hearing it, and objecting to it.

You know that old platitude?- If you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all?

Has the "case" I have been defined as, by so many, become more and more silent? I wonder why?

Why don't you talk that over ("covertly") with a still growing group of others, all still puzzled about it all and see what you can come up with for an answer.

Nice is, as Nice is Perceived

If the people who seem so "nice" to you, talked about you in exactly the SAME way you know they talk about me, TO YOU, would they seem "nice" to you?

If the question makes you feel uncomfortable, do you notice the first thing you do,almost automatically, is direct the focus AWAY from thr duplicitous one and onto the one who points out the duplicity? Those of us who are talked ABOUT by the duplicitous ones also notice that. So now notice us, noticing you.....

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The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.

Speculation

 

What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?

 

 

 

Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?

 

YOUR GATEWAY TO

THE SCIENTIFIC STUDY OF GANGING UP
"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois

 

“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

Schizophrenic Zen

 The people who are talking about us exclude THEMSELVES from the identification process regarding the people who we “think” are talking about us.  These are the same people who lower their eyes and talk out of the sides of their mouths as the means of rendering themselves invisible and inaudible when talking about us, from one to ten feet away. Having achieved this state of being through the use of the cloak of invisibility and the cone of silence, they then know they cannot be the people doing all the talking. They think it must be awful to have a disease that causes us to think people are talking about us and they are sure glad they don’t have an illness like that.

Don’t laugh. They will help us if you do.

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