Dysfunctional Realities


Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!

Dysfunctional Power Struggle

Aggressor: Don't listen to HER! She is only SAYING I did that to seek attention.

Opposite side, rarely heard: Don't listen to HIM. He is only SAYING “don't listen to her,” to avoid having any unwanted attention focused on him.

A Current Commercial Example of a Common Naivete

This is the kind of blindness that is all around us.

There's a commercial running right now, depicting a teen girl, sitting in a kitchen, surrounded by a silent group of onlookers/bystanders, while she insults and verbally abuses a member of the group. The attack is very personal and highly contemptuous. This commercial is produced as an anti-bullying message and after the scene is played out a voice-over delivers this message:

"If you wouldn't do it in person, why would you do it online?"

It is an attempt to get people focused on cyber-bullying tactics as performed by groups who attack others, including people they don't actually know.

Seems logical and to the point?

Well, almost, but there are a couple of things about this that get my attention which may not be apparent to everyone. You can bet though that they are apparent to some. The problem is that it is not entirely true to everyone, as this scene is assumed not to occur in real life, in much the same way it is presented. This is often in fact, reality in the REAL world and NOT just in the world of cyberspace. It ALWAYS has been, though it is usually denied to exist and defined quite differently.

In fact, the cyber version is just the NEWER version of the same old "play" which has made it more VISIBLE, because people cannot as easily deny the cyber footprints left by the group abuse. It is much harder to claim nothing happened when it is WRITTEN DOWN like that isn't it? It is then beyond the "he said/she said" unwitnessed version of the event. It is so much easier to reject "anecdotal" style "witnessing" or evidence, since it can't often be proved, one way OR the other. I am pretty sure that is why SOME leader's instruct their followers not to leave any written evidence trails, indicating proof of intent. In this way such complaints from victims can be heard as just "stories" and most folks can't tell who, is whom, in such disputes.

The question asked at the end of this spot though, to those who have been treated just like that in PERSON, in groups, as targets, in real life, sounds very naive at best.

This TOO is about various perspectives on "reality."

Message off the TV.

"There is a thing on Survivor where perception tends to BECOME reality whether it is actually true or not..."

Jeff Probst


We who are assessed by groups with hidden agendas may well hear that as a "message" related to our own experience. I don't think it is all that hard to understand WHY. Do you?

Constant reminder for the deniers of the irrationality of groups:

This group behaviour is DENIED to exist. THAT'S the problem.


The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.



What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?




Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?



"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois


“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

Schizophrenic Zen

 The people who are talking about us exclude THEMSELVES from the identification process regarding the people who we “think” are talking about us.  These are the same people who lower their eyes and talk out of the sides of their mouths as the means of rendering themselves invisible and inaudible when talking about us, from one to ten feet away. Having achieved this state of being through the use of the cloak of invisibility and the cone of silence, they then know they cannot be the people doing all the talking. They think it must be awful to have a disease that causes us to think people are talking about us and they are sure glad they don’t have an illness like that.

Don’t laugh. They will help us if you do.