Dysfunctional Realities


Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!

Dysfunctional Power Struggle

Aggressor: Don't listen to HER! She is only SAYING I did that to seek attention.

Opposite side, rarely heard: Don't listen to HIM. He is only SAYING “don't listen to her,” to avoid having any unwanted attention focused on him.

It is NOT About...

Not letting an F-in thing bother you.

It is not about, as some "covert" assessors have defined my ability to stay sane, or detached, among other group assessments, as "not feeling anything at ALL." Still others invalidate my emotional reactions by saying I am "TOO sensitive."

(As long as EITHER way any flaw is found to be in me which is the real point)

It is about dealing with what has, does, or is bothering you by using Self focus and Self-control and giving up the constant comparing of yourself with others and to other people's lives, as if Life, itself was a contest against others that you must "win." THAT is the dysfunctional mind set.

You don't live other people's lives. Though we all have many SIMILAR experiences we do not have IDENTICAL experiences, circumstances, or relationships. So they don't compare EXACTLY. You don't live other people's lives from THEIR point of view and they don't live YOURS, from yours. Others may be able to give you one or two small pieces of information you don't have, which would completely change what you think you understand about THEM and the opposite is also true. The point is they should not HAVE to do that and neither should you. Your job is to self-actualize (or not) just like theirs is, as well.

Get your dysfunctional head out of CONTEST mode (Splitting) and Self focus. You can't change your relatives, or your neighbours. You can stop them if they are breaking the law. You can let them know how you think, and feel, if you choose to do so, BUT (and that's my BIG But) you can't change them. You can only change you, and/or HOW you DEAL with others, and how you react to the reality you've got.

So stop asking third parties stupid questions like:

Why is she walking down the street?

Why is she looking down at the river?

Why is she looking inside that toaster box at Target? What does she think she is going to see in there?

Why is she just standing at the front of the building?

Instead, ask YOURSELVES:

Why am I so overly and/or idiotically involved in the most insignificant, near meaningless, details of other people's lives and actions? Best of all why do I act this all out right in their presence, like they are not really there, while thinking I am not seen, or heard, while doing it?

Why can't I connect the reactions I get from the people I am assessing and evaluating all the time to all the boundary violating horse shit I involve myself in, almost daily, while talking about/slandering them to others, who are doing the same thing, and then denying it all?

Self-focus. Learn YOU. Question YOU and your own thought processes.

Where did they come from? Observe YOU, observing others.

How do you think YOU look and sound to them?

Want to fix a "defective" human? Look in the mirror at the most fascinating case of them all and learn from relating to THAT whack job. S/he is going to be hard to understand but you can do it if you really try. S/he will likely keep you just fascinated until you suck your last breath if you're doing it right.

Start by giving up convoluted statements like, "We can't control others" even as you are trying to control others, FOR trying to control still other, "others"....

First notice this: who are "we" in your all inclusive abstract statements of truth and normality? One thing many of "us" have noticed is that the "we" does not INCLUDE "you."


The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.



What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?




Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?



"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois


“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

Schizophrenic Zen

 The people who are talking about us exclude THEMSELVES from the identification process regarding the people who we “think” are talking about us.  These are the same people who lower their eyes and talk out of the sides of their mouths as the means of rendering themselves invisible and inaudible when talking about us, from one to ten feet away. Having achieved this state of being through the use of the cloak of invisibility and the cone of silence, they then know they cannot be the people doing all the talking. They think it must be awful to have a disease that causes us to think people are talking about us and they are sure glad they don’t have an illness like that.

Don’t laugh. They will help us if you do.