Dysfunctional Realities


Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!

Dysfunctional Power Struggle

Aggressor: Don't listen to HER! She is only SAYING I did that to seek attention.

Opposite side, rarely heard: Don't listen to HIM. He is only SAYING “don't listen to her,” to avoid having any unwanted attention focused on him.


This is the polar opposite of "secret" Inferiority and the "choice" made between two poles in the dysfunctional paradigm. Separate and equal is not even in this view of reality. In dysfunctional relating life is a contest, not a co-operative.

Wherever there is an assumption of superiority in understanding and/or inherent worth, there is NO REAL communication taking place between those two "sides." Even less so, if the other "side" is relating as an equal and not accepting one of the assigned roles of EITHER superior or inferior.

Say THIS everywhere and help to break the dysfunctional group "spell" we have been placed under. You don't even have to state who, is whom. Everyone already really KNOWS who they are in the "play" and the roles they are playing whether assigned to them, or their own choice. They know that, whether they want to "admit" to anything or not. You don't have to "get through" to the players, and with some of them, you won't be able to "get through" no matter what you say, or for how long you say it.

You have to change the script. Not the actors playing the roles.

For people who instruct others not to 'admit' to anything, already KNOW they are trying to hide something don't they? If they did NOT know that, there would be nothing to which they are referring to, which had to be kept "hidden." For why would anyone need to "hide" their participation in NOTHING, or accept an instruction from their controllers to hide IT?

Having trouble making sense of that? Good.

That means you are probably starting to come out of the dysfunctional group trance you've been in.

Controllers Tend to Make Ego Based Mistakes

They often feel the need to tell third parties what they are doing, or, at least, give them hints about it. They do that because their GOAL is to prove their "superiority" to THEMSELVES. This is the faulty premise from which they operate. But because they have such overblown egos they really WANT someone else to know how clever they are- which is sometimes, though not always, their downfall.

That is because that kind of "covert" control is secrecy dependent and as soon as they have revealed even part of the "secret", to another "secret keeper" like themselves, they have essentially lost their control over the situation.


The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.



What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?




Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?



"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois


“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

Schizophrenic Zen

 The people who are talking about us exclude THEMSELVES from the identification process regarding the people who we “think” are talking about us.  These are the same people who lower their eyes and talk out of the sides of their mouths as the means of rendering themselves invisible and inaudible when talking about us, from one to ten feet away. Having achieved this state of being through the use of the cloak of invisibility and the cone of silence, they then know they cannot be the people doing all the talking. They think it must be awful to have a disease that causes us to think people are talking about us and they are sure glad they don’t have an illness like that.

Don’t laugh. They will help us if you do.