Dysfunctional Realities


Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!

Dysfunctional Power Struggle

Aggressor: Don't listen to HER! She is only SAYING I did that to seek attention.

Opposite side, rarely heard: Don't listen to HIM. He is only SAYING “don't listen to her,” to avoid having any unwanted attention focused on him.

Even the Biggest Control Freaks on the Planet

.....Can't Control Everyone

Don't Become What You Hate.

Don't decide you "may as well because you can't change anything. You CAN change something.

You can change the way we deal with this dysfunctional group reality.

Don't abuse, curse, yell, threaten or become violent. Do what they don't expect and don't know HOW to control. Become a mob of egalitarians; full of reason, mutual respect, on a one to one basis, and models of personal boundaries. The controllers will be running for cover.

A good tactic is to travel in pairs or more so that when a superior idiot says things like, "There she is...I bet she thinks we are talking about her right now...."

You too can use that good old indirect non communication by saying to your Public Therapy Partner (PTP),

"Do you think this is one of the times when the S.I. (Superior Idiot) can hear himself or is this one of the times when he is "hidden" from himself, and therefore "hidden" from us as well?" It's hard to tell WHEN they are defining that "difference" for themselves isn't it? Too bad we can't just ask them but then we already KNOW we won't get a straight answer from them, so there is no point in trying that. They can't really HEAR us anyway....the poor things."

Then you can both stop talking and just quietly OBSERVE the "subject."

Remember to strike the observation pose while using the clinical gaze so people will know you understand your mental stuff. Posturing is very important. Now also remember your "subject" could well be another student in the "life sciences" program being trained to invalidate your awareness of him, so don't be too surprised if he comes up with yet another, alternate reality to explain you away as a vital part of maintaining his own position.

If you are having trouble understanding the group/mob phenomenon of superior idiots and their unquestioning supporters, you might get some extra info from this one. He is retired now also but still close by I think. Perhaps he can help to explain you to YOU.

Ken Westhues, University of Waterloo, Professor Emeritus, Sociology

Link here: Mobbing

I am telling all of you "superior" people the SAME thing I have told your targeted "inferiors" for many years. THEY have been the ones who helped me; not YOU. Do you really WANT to save the world, all you "messiah" types? If you REALLY do, then Self Focus. If you do, you just may see the "Source" of the problem and be able to correct IT. For ( to go a bit into "religiosis" for you) the "Kingdom of Heaven" IS "within you" and SO is the Empire of Hell. The difference is basically in ATTITUDES. If you see It and correct IT you may stop exporting It like canned worms.

I know that canning worms is a very lucrative business, since the production costs are so low. For you can keep selling the same line, over and over again when your customers don't want to see the disgusting mess inside them. So to aviod that, they don't open the cans. Still, maybe making an endless profit on canned worms no one ever opens is not the most important job on the planet? What if you switched the product to something everyone could actually benefit from when the sales figures go up and the con-test way of life goes DOWN? How about canning some new Food for Thought, just as a change of pace?

Those of you focused on taking care of your own interests, could still DO that and make some money too. It is just that Food for Thought as the switch for canned Worms would mean the interests of your customers would be taken care of as well, without having to make it a "choice" between the interests of the seller OR the interests of the "consumer."

Whaddaya say? Time to retool the Old Cracker Factory and ditch the worms?



The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.



What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?




Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?



"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois


“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

Schizophrenic Zen

 The people who are talking about us exclude THEMSELVES from the identification process regarding the people who we “think” are talking about us.  These are the same people who lower their eyes and talk out of the sides of their mouths as the means of rendering themselves invisible and inaudible when talking about us, from one to ten feet away. Having achieved this state of being through the use of the cloak of invisibility and the cone of silence, they then know they cannot be the people doing all the talking. They think it must be awful to have a disease that causes us to think people are talking about us and they are sure glad they don’t have an illness like that.

Don’t laugh. They will help us if you do.