Dysfunctional Realities


Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!

Dysfunctional Power Struggle

Aggressor: Don't listen to HER! She is only SAYING I did that to seek attention.

Opposite side, rarely heard: Don't listen to HIM. He is only SAYING “don't listen to her,” to avoid having any unwanted attention focused on him.

Delusional Reversal

Basically it goes like this: reality splitting so that wrong, can seem "right."

It is of course less likely to be seen in groups since the dysfunctional group has VOTED it into "normality."

When you live in dysfunctional contest mode, and are focused on WHO has control and not WHAT the control bit is all ABOUT, real problems are rarely identified so they don't ever get resolved.

If you are a member of the group which does not think in terms of a "contest" you will not understand the power struggle. So the "contestants" who must "win" a struggle in order to feel all right about THEMSELVES will conclude YOU are their "inferior" for not understanding it.

KNOW this. THEN talk about the contest itself which thrives in dysfunctional groups and not about the specific individuals playing It. The contest mode ITSELF needs to be revealed to be understood. That is because we cannot "fix" something we are not "allowed" to even see.

Don't try to "get through" to the dysfunctional "gamers" it won't work. Don't expect truth from them; they won't give it. They cannot allow it to work. If it worked, it would ruin their game. The Gamers can't HEAR you as they are psychologically "deaf" to what you are saying. For if it is not in contest mode, they just don't get it. So expose IT publicly everywhere to dis-empower the "game" itself. THAT is how everybody will 'win." Equality with good boundaries "cures' group/individual insanity.

This is about delusional reversal in GROUPS. (projected beliefs)

It is a topic which is never, or very rarely, discussed at all.

If you are part of a large group talking about me, like I am a subject, a case, or an object of observation and assessment, while simultaneously DENYING that you are doing that, then are you the "sane" ones for denying that and "hiding" it?

Conversely, if I "claim" that I am aware of all of you, as a group which is talking about me, (not TO me, or with me, as equals of course) like I am a subject, a case, or an object of observation and assessment, and I am also aware that you are denying it, and lying about it, am I then the "crazy" one for KNOWING? And WHY is this like this? Well, here we are at the nexus of meaning; because it would not be "reasonable" for a large group of people to think and behave that way....

Now on THAT point we are in agreement. It is not reasonable. That is the point where the two "sides" of the same "experience" meet. The "difference" is that I am focused on what has/is happening, whereas the self-protective GROUP focuses on WHO thinks says or does IT. It's political; not "reasonable."

It's about the dysfunctional GROUP dynamic.

See if you can HEAR why SOME people who have been broken by systemic abuse might think they are "like Jesus" who, whether you think was the one or not, represented the sacrifice of the truth for the errors of others; an "offering" used to pay in one way or another...anything click there at all? Even for just a second? Are any of you normal people here willingly sacrificing the truth to "take care of your own interests?" Or does denying that make sure it is ALWAYS (not "sometimes") someone else's delusion?

Delusional Reversal displays it's insanity with its self justification. This comes AFTER outright lying and denial are no longer possibilities which will work. So next comes the trivializing of the ''effects. ''

So, (SWITCH!) we get a psychiatrist, one who defines sanity itself for those he controls, saying, in his published work yet) that ''it was the taking of a victim stance that brought it all down on their own heads.'' (''choosing to be a victim'')

THIS kind of thinking PERPETUATES the horror even AS it DENIES the existence of it. It is classic victim blaming though.

The ''Jews'' are either lying, exaggerating or even CAUSING the Holocaust; NOT the psychopath ass-holes and their sheep-like supporters. For these are the ''no one must be blamed'' people. That MEANS of course, ''no one'' OTHER than those who supposedly ''caused'' their own murders.

That is the typical dysfunctional group convoluted style of thinking right there. So WHO is going to ''correct'' the psychiatrist who blamed the victims? Am I showing my usual ''unrealistic expectations'' by asking if those who create and define sanity itself are going to SAY anything, against anyone, in their group??

How is this any different from things like, ''the rape victim was sending out rape me signals?''

or how about, '' the store owner should have KNOWN that if she put too much good stuff on display in her store it was bound to be stolen?

Delusional Reversal IS the problem and it is a VERY common one in ALL dysfunctional groups. Often the ones with the biggest problem are also the ones who seem the MOST sane and normal to everyone else...

That's is because we all FIRST look for the ''reason'' in things and the unreasonable ones, most often with a goal in mind, already KNOW that, even as they go into their well practised, act about being accused ''falsely.''



The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.



What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?




Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?



"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois


“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

Schizophrenic Zen

 The people who are talking about us exclude THEMSELVES from the identification process regarding the people who we “think” are talking about us.  These are the same people who lower their eyes and talk out of the sides of their mouths as the means of rendering themselves invisible and inaudible when talking about us, from one to ten feet away. Having achieved this state of being through the use of the cloak of invisibility and the cone of silence, they then know they cannot be the people doing all the talking. They think it must be awful to have a disease that causes us to think people are talking about us and they are sure glad they don’t have an illness like that.

Don’t laugh. They will help us if you do.