Dysfunctional Realities


Regarding the 'Imbalance'

I believe there
IS an imbalance but it is not in the brain chemistry. It is in the psycho spiritual or metaphysical realm of relating. Human beings tend to protect and defend dysfunctional values and boundary violating behaviour as though their lives depended upon it. We love 'the devil we know' simply because we are used to it. It takes effort to change that and we will not win any popularity contests by doing it. We are so accustomed to having how we all LOOK and SOUND to 'others' as the top priority, defined as 'normal,' that we object to anyone who tries to state openly that how we ARE is twisted and self destructive. So rather than hear the truth, the majority engage in a contest with those 'others' who are 'not like us'  believing that the only way to preserve the group madness we know and love is to dominate all the 'others' who are as mad as we are for doing exactly the same thing!

Dysfunctional Power Struggle

Aggressor: Don't listen to HER! She is only SAYING I did that to seek attention.

Opposite side, rarely heard: Don't listen to HIM. He is only SAYING “don't listen to her,” to avoid having any unwanted attention focused on him.

The Premise

When we are not operating from the same LEVEL of communication, we may be using the same WORDS while not really communicating at all. It is often the basic difference between thinking in terms of what's what, rather than in terms of who is whom.

If parents or family (or the boss or the cop or the preacher, orthe dictator etc. ) MUST be revered for BEING those NOUNS, then those who are being defined that way can say, or do, WHATEVER they like to anyone who suggests that reality is otherwise. For when we are forced to think in abstractions, in absolute terms, as a "norm" it is the deviation from that "norm" which gets identified as the "problem" and the problem ITSELF is concealed, denied and perpetuated as a result, or, as the "effect."

In reality, SOME parents, family members, (bosses, cops, doctors etc. ) will even murder their own. How many of the murdered tried to TELL others about the reality of their situations BEFORE it happened, only to be invalidated, "diagnosed" or ignored or said to be JUST "seeking attention" by those who are "normal" and therefore trained to think in mesmerizing abstractions?

We Can't Blame "Others"

(as an abstraction in absolute terms)

Are you having trouble understanding WHO those ''others'' actually are?

Well, let me help you with that.

The "others" who can never be blamed are generally the ones who hold the concrete power OVER those other "others" who CAN be blamed and they can be blamed for trying to blame the other "others" who can never be blamed, for something for which they must be perceived as "blameless." With me so far? So the "others" can't be blamed and the other "others" CAN be blamed by the first set of "others."

Are you having trouble making sense of that? Me too. That though is WHY the "others" who can't be blamed, blame ME often by blaming my brain for "having trouble making sense of things." The "things" of course, must also remain non-specific as is in keeping with the policies of those blameless "others."

This is about defining life itself as an abstraction, which "they" (the blameless "others") can then CONTROL.

So, while you may be "having trouble making sense" of this on the level of abstract thought, it DOES make a KIND of sense on the concrete level in relation to well established dysfunction. It IS about power, control and domination, which is being related to who is whom and NOT to what is what, as IT PRETENDS to be.

It is about status in concrete reality; not about reality ITSELF. "No one must be blamed" is a crock. "Others" are in reality, blaming "others" all the time, every day. Our court/legal systems are based on it. Sometimes the "others" are being blamed rightfully; often they are not. We are just being TOLD when we will be "allowed" to see It and when we won't, BY those with the power in concrete reality to dictate the terms to us.

THAT'S the REAL problem. The problem we are not "allowed" to see, hear or identify is the problem we will never solve. For we cannot change what we cannot identify. That's just the way many of those in positions of power and control want it to be.

Talk about the problem ITSELF on THIS level and do it everywhere. Once it is no longer "hidden" everyone will start to face reality and then DO something about IT.


The Trees of the Forest 

I live in a Community Full of Trees who have turned to each other and agreed together that there is no Forest. I am the only one, it seems, who can see a Forest. I perceived this Forest to exist also while in the Home Wood. The Trees in the Home Wood perceived my perception of them as warped and ridiculous, and my 'claim' that I saw those Trees as nothing but a bid for attention.
That is how the Trees know that I am stupid and/or crazy you see. That and the fact that all the Trees know that reality, is that, which is defined by majority vote. What the Majority votes into existence is obviously what is normal. What the majority vote against is abnormal. So there is no “Forest.” So say the Trees.



What would have happened if Neanderthal, certain that he represented all that was right, normal and complete in creation/evolution, had decided, and had the capability to; 'fix,’ modify and control Cro Magnon for his own good?




Would those of us with taller foreheads been understood to be suffering from severe birth defects and assumed to be too stupid to know it?



"A mobbing is like a tornado spun off from a spring rainstorm
- a fervent, collective assault that escalates from
an ordinary conflict."
-Kenneth Westhues
qtd. in "Mob Rule"
by John Gravois


“It is important for human beings to feel popular and well liked amongst a large group of human beings that we don’t really care for at all.”

Jerry Seinfeld

Schizophrenic Zen

 The people who are talking about us exclude THEMSELVES from the identification process regarding the people who we “think” are talking about us.  These are the same people who lower their eyes and talk out of the sides of their mouths as the means of rendering themselves invisible and inaudible when talking about us, from one to ten feet away. Having achieved this state of being through the use of the cloak of invisibility and the cone of silence, they then know they cannot be the people doing all the talking. They think it must be awful to have a disease that causes us to think people are talking about us and they are sure glad they don’t have an illness like that.

Don’t laugh. They will help us if you do.