Awareness Exercise No. 42 7/11/2015 Admin 1378 views A Shot of AwarenessHere is a little awareness game for you:If someone says their father is a liar and manipulator, what is your first, knee jerk reaction, to that? For most, especially if the father so accused seems nice to YOU and is calm cool and collected, and even acting shocked and mystified by the accusation, that he could ever tell a lie, the majority will find the fault in the accuser and that has a whole lot to do with what is sometimes called, “The Family Romance.” In the Family Romance, parents do not harm their own children, as judged as an abstraction, in absolute terms. In reality, many parents in fact, DO harm their own children and lie about it too. Not ALL parents, and not all the time, on either side of that and also not all to the same degree. Yet in REALITY, the one on this very planet, some parents actually murder their own children.The point being life is not really a “one size fits all” abstraction and it cannot be judged by details like, status, authoritarian position, sexual identity, religion, colour, bank accounts, formal education, titles or “family romance” type expectations in EITHER direction. That is not reality. And because it is not, NO ONE, pretending to know everything, can really write a book of diagnostics based on “one size fits all” categories of judgement that can be applied to everyone, equally, who says, for example, “I have been harmed by others” unless of course, on the planet where YOU come from no one EVER, does any harm, to any others. If that is true where YOU come from, lucky you E.T. ..but unfortunately, here on planet Earth, life is just not like that. Here, some people say they were harmed by others when they were not and others say they were harmed by others because they were, but are just not believed. It's just not that cut and dried here. Sorry. Here on planet Earth we need to look farther when there is a dispute between people. We need to look for evidence, all evidence, offered by BOTH sides and we need to not refuse to accept it when it gets handed to us, nor make it up to make us right, because we don't want to get blamed for anything. Because if we don't do it right, we then need to use scapegoats who have to pay for the collective error, over and over again. On this planet we often like to claim, we are “waiting for Godot” but in reality, Godot shows up, over and over again, trying to save the “superior” people from themselves and the same people, or their superior offspring, keep, torturing, killing, mocking, ridiculing and locking Godot up in insane asylums because s/he does not think like THEM. Then they sigh together, “If only someone would come along to straighten out all these crazy people we have to lock up, for their own good, and make them more like us.” This is the attribution error. Most of the time it is WHO is being defined in a certain way and not WHAT is being defined even though that is the Pretence most often used to maintain the long, ongoing, dysfunctional status quo.