the things we are not "allowed" to talk about, and the fact that we are being TOLD
what we may, or may not, talk about. Does the Public REALLY Behave This Way?Question
: Why do you need to get people in public to STOP
behaving this way?
I speak of the Bell Canada Commercial aimed at "ending the stigma" which goes like this:"There's that crazy girl...she is just so weird..."
( repeat...repeat...)The Bell Canada "Let's Talk,"
now running and aimed at "getting rid of the stigma" associated with "mental illness" demonstrates groups of people, "third-personning" others, which is a form of objectification, and acting out their contempt and verbal abuse, toward those people, who are often then "diagnosed" for "thinking" people, including people they do not even know,
them that way... assumed no doubt, to be "hidden,"as they do it.
Do you get that? Do you understand that the reason "that crazy girl, who is so weird"
labeled in the FIRST
place was very likely BECAUSE
she says the people around her act the way the people IN THIS COMMERCIAL
are being portrayed?
Make the OBVIOUS
Often, the "crazy girl, who is so weird" can't TELL
the mental illness system what charming people like these are DOING
, because it is denied to BE
reality and if she continues to talk about the invalidation, and the levels of stress she is under, which has INCREASED
since the helpful "diagnostic" label was bestowed upon her, the result for HER
will be more "treatment." That usually means an INCREASE
in drugging, often forced, "for her own good."
Make the connections.
These are not two "different" experiences of reality. This is the SAME
reality, seen and understood from opposing viewpoints and being treated
by those who think they are neatly divided into the "sick and the well," AS IF
reality had different meanings
depending upon WHO
is speaking of it, rather than WHAT
is being said. This is a common form of Splitting.
You are STILL
defining another person, as "sick" rather than "crazy' or "weird," without noticing the third-personning brand of reductionism, or the fact that the individual is still being talked ABOUT,
and not TO,
and can't be heard, as having a legitimate
point of view about the group acting out, right there, right then, even if she tries. It is like being invisible as a human being.
Let me add some missing information to this picture for you. Just a little bit that allows anyone interested to see what is missing from this portrayal of reality.
The "weird, crazy girl" this trio are talking about is actually six feet away from them when they are talking, and when she heard them, she turned and looked right AT
them, and they had NOIDEA
that she was not just looking "confused" because to them, that is a "symptom" of her "illness" and THEY do not see themselves as part of the picture. In reality, she was looking confused because she could not BELIEVE
,that supposedly "normal" people, people with supposedly normal average, and presumably "healthy" minds did not KNOW
that she could see them, hear them, and understand them, from six feet away. So she decided that they were likely just pretending to be stupid as part of the routine she has had performed for her (AT
her) by the "normal" people, every day of her life
. The same objectification routine for which she was labeled
in the first place for "believing" it was real and not a "symptom" of her supposedly "faulty" brain.
So now, you stigma reducers, what exactly are you trying to CHANGE
Is it the labeled person's perception of that and reactions to it?
Is it the GROUP
/societal behaviour and the ongoing DENIAL
of that which you want to change?
If it is the latter, why are you not focused on what is wrong with the group behaviour
instead of changing the language used to that of a gentler form
of invalidation and judgment to talk about
the weird girl; "She's
sick...her, not "us."
As the old song goes, "Let's give them something to talk ABOUT." Here is your little "mystery" to figure out.
How about we all try talking about dysfunctional GROUPS
and what motivates the protection of that status quo and why we need
those who see it, all too clearly, to deny the reality of their
experience of it?
Number 4. on the list of things to do to get rid of that "stigma" is Listen and Ask.
OK then. LISTEN
Perhaps one of the things you could do would be to stop labeling people for "thinking" (erroneously according to experts) that his is how people REALLY
behave and it is, in fact, very common.
That should go a long way toward getting RID
of the stigma that causes people to be talked ABOUT
, by people, who YOU
say, don't do that, and if "we think" they do; we are crazy.
All too often, the people who are MOST
aware of the reality in which we all live are silenced (silencing those imaginary "voices" they have often been forced to internalize) by giving them the most invalidating and controlling psychiatric labels used to explain this all AWAY.
Let's talk about group dysfunction and denial.
Let's talk about the process of stigmatizing, itself.
Let's talk about the harm done by psychiatric diagnoses and labels,
Let's talk ABOUT
the Talking ABOUT
, and the isolation and invalidation this causes for the "subjects," an isolation and invalidation of life experience which is created and sustained BY
the group ATTITUDES.
Many of us have been talking for generations. We just are not really HEARD
because what we are saying is not pleasant, to have to hear. for the chronically normal, who often express gratitude that THEY
aren't "sick" like "them."Question:
Why do you NEED
to get the public, generally, to STOP
behaving this way when, according to you, most of us REPORTING
this to you experts only "imagine
Can you STILL
not hear or see what is right in front of you? Or are you just "pretending" that you don't, in order to avoid responsibility for doing harm, whether inadvertently or not??#BellLetsTalk