If you are desiring to be a really GOOD chronic gossip and slanderer you MUST remember to swear all the other chronic gossips and story tellers to secrecy before you pass along all the latest heard about your inferior target, so that they, in turn, will do the same. Remember now, you are like a club and you need to show lots of loyalty to the members of your group if you don't want to BECOME one of their targets YOURSELF, in which case that "club" (har har) may well be used to ensure your submission to group pressure demanding you silence.
This way, when, or IF, the target gets all the horseshit repeated back to him or her, in whatever fascinating form it is in by THEN, at any given moment, in all the acting out, ALL the gossips can go into their "mystified" act TOGETHER. Then everyone involved can successfully deny all knowledge. Once that group denial is accepted as "reality" (group agreement) the mental illness profession can go ahead from there and create an alternate "reality" (nudge, wink) which can be used to stuff the targeted "sick one" (You have to admit; you ARE upset and feel "sick" right?) into a boxed- in category of defective human kept out of sight. Once that nice containment field has been created for "the sick one" everyone can successfully close the door on THAT "case" and that will keep the entire group safe from any BLAME. ....The dreaded "blame" which as we all know MEANS , "to hold accountable." This move will then justify the behaviour of the gossips and story tellers as it will be seen and understood as "proving" that the target WAS, and therefore IS, your "inferior." Hooray! You're the "winners" in the "game of life." Just like the real winners in the con-test with me.
Now since that is the payoff the group members actually get for all that they do, and is such, right from the start, make sure that your duplicity is KEPT INTACT. Remember the dysfunctional scapegoating group motto: "never reveal; always conceal." Only the superior "secret" slanderers who close ranks in order to take care of their own interests can pull this off successfully. So whatever you do, don't admit to anything, don't apologize for it, and don't make any move to make amends to your targets- EVER. For apology is tantamount to admission and an admission makes you subject to group, and individual, accountability. We can't have THAT now can we?
Tell your targets that if they EXPECT anyone involved to admit to anything, THEY have unrealistic expectations. Remember your job is to blame the target of the abuse for bringing it on THEMSELVES and you must either deny their experience of reality, or, if forced to admit to the existence of it, for some reason, you must move to the next "shifting" of meaning, as the means of self protection/self promotion and that is defining the target as having the wrong REACTIONS to the experience. Got that?
First deny the target's experience of reality altogether if you can and/or if you can't pull that off successfully, invalidate his or her emotional reactions and complaints about it. In other words, no matter WHAT the target says or does, you, as the controller, must invalidate it so that the target, is always wrong, which is the role opposite of the one in which you have cast yourself of "always right and never wrong" as they also happen to say in the est training taken by the psychiatric nurse.
Now remember to always tell your targeted inferior that if they expect anything otherwise THEY have "unrealistic expectations." Not you-THEM. That is very important that you invalidate them no matter what they say or don't say. Your self serving agenda demands it.
Those who actually understand less and who ALSO believe that understanding less about something makes them inferior human beings, like to project their own level of understanding onto those THEY don't understand. For if they don't understand the other, the other MUST be an inferior human being. They can't have it any other way. These are people who see life as a contest, which they must "win" in order to feel better about themselves.
Now, the hidden agenda people just DON'T understand WHY we don't want anything to do with them since, in THEIR minds, their agendas of power, control and their "assessments" of us are all "hidden." Key phrase in that? - IN THEIR MINDS.
Or. as it is phrased inside the est training, "It's all in your minds."
These are two sides of the SAME experience of reality; not two distinct and separate experiences of reality, as the "superior" ones want IT to be.
It is the difference between being "tested" by someone who perceives him/herself as superior in understanding and/or worth, to the one they "test," in order to observe what kind of a reaction they can get...
Being the one being "tested" by some obvious, duplicitous wonder, who YOU see as an equal human being and therefore YOU are observing them AS "testing" you, to see what kind of a reaction they can get.
This is the same experience but on two different levels of awareness.
The "tester" assuming him/herself to be superior to the tested, observes your reactions; such as looking puzzled at them, as "proof" that you are their inferior. The puzzled look indicates that you are "having trouble making sense of things," ...and you ARE, aren't you? They don't see their "testing" as senseless, or delusional, in itself because it, and they, are in the presumably HIGHER position as "testers."
This is also known as "delusional reversal." This is, ironically, a KNOWN phenomenon to those who are IN that state without being aware of it. But then, that is what makes it "delusional" which means a fixed false belief that is not seen or understood by those holding onto it.. (ya just gotta laugh right?- but DON'T! For god's sake! Don't laugh! ...when what you are laughing about is not understood by your testers!...especially if they have all the concrete power over you!)
The reason we can't resolve this with our testers, or just get a straight answer out of them, or a two way conversation, as if with normal human beings, is because if they were to do so it would defeat their purpose for doing what they do. Remember this is not about reason (logic) but it is about A reason. (purpose).
It is all about them and their self delusion/self promotion/self protection. It is about their projection of their own deficiencies and lack of understanding. You are "just stupid" or "crazy" because it CAN'T be them.
This is what SPLITTING is about. They can call YOU crazy to help you. You can't call them crazy though as doing so is insulting and disrespectful to THEM.
(but not to you, because you ARE crazy and stupid, not that there is any stigma in that...got it?)
This is why the "objective observers" can't HEAR you even when you are talking right TO them. They do not consider themselves to be IN a TWO way transaction. So if you say to them, something like, "that which you are observing is observing you" they have NO IDEAWHO you are talking to, since THEY are not part of YOUR experience, as THEY understand it. They see themselves as the observers and you as that which is observed, and which has little, or nothing, to do with them personally. There is no real communication there. There is none wanted either, as if it was a two way interaction of equals, the sensitive dependence on initial conditions, (big bang theory, quantum theory) would be lost and the projected outcome would be completely ruined and very different to what it is NOW.
In other words, they would be forced to change their own minds......ohhhhhh ...scarrrryyyy......